Pondering Softness

Lately I’ve been pondering softness. 

That sounds weird.  How does one ponder softness anyway?

Well, it started with “Joan” on the AMC show Mad Men. She is the head of the secretary pool and at all times remains composed (even in the face of atrocious behavior by the men). 

The more tense the situation, the sweeter and softer her voice.  But she doesn’t come across the least bit passive. 

It’s more like a quite strength. 

Steady. Even. Direct. Yet soft.

Very cool.

So I’m thinking…  what happens when hardness meets softness instead of meeting more hardness as expected? 

It feels like the hard energy just might spooge out and dissipate.  Like all the hard energy just gets disarmed.